How to Find Love Without Dating Apps: AI Matchmaking

To look for love without endless swiping, consider a matchmaking approach that uses conversations to explore your personality, values, communication style, and relationship goals. Andy da Costa, creator of Intimid AI Matchmaking, shares how this works on The Elisha Show with host Amb. Elisha Arowojobe.

Key takeaways

• AI matchmaking can use conversations and compatibility profiles to identify potential matches based on more than superficial profile details.
• Discussing values, communication styles, and relationship goals can help clarify what two people are looking for.
• Potential compatibility is not the same as guaranteed chemistry; only the people meeting can determine whether they feel a connection.
• Authenticity, consent, privacy, identity verification, and safety matter in the matchmaking process.

How does AI matchmaking work?

AI matchmaking uses conversations to build a picture of a person's personality, values, communication style, and relationship goals. Intimid combines AI-powered conversations with human matchmaking principles to create compatibility profiles and identify potential matches.

Rather than relying only on profile details, the approach looks at what people say they want and how they communicate. Shared expectations can help people see whether a potential match appears aligned before they meet.

Why can dating apps leave people frustrated?

Andy da Costa believes some dating platforms prioritize keeping users engaged over helping them form lasting relationships. That can leave people feeling stuck in endless swiping or focused on superficial profiles rather than meaningful compatibility.

His interest in another approach grew from his own difficulty finding meaningful connections as an introvert in Los Angeles. He created Intimid as an alternative to swiping and to expensive traditional matchmaking services. This is his view of the problem, not a claim that every dating platform works the same way.

Can AI tell whether two people have chemistry?

No. AI can help identify potential compatibility, but it cannot determine whether two people have genuine chemistry; the individuals themselves find that out when they meet.

A compatibility profile is best understood as a way to consider shared values and expectations before a meeting, not a promise that a relationship will work. It can help people decide whether there seems to be enough alignment to explore a connection in person.

What should you look for in an online matchmaking service?

Look for clear attention to privacy, identity verification, consent, and safety, as well as a process that considers relationship goals and expectations. These concerns matter when a service uses personal information to suggest potential matches.

Authenticity also matters: represent yourself honestly and be clear about what kind of relationship you want. Andy emphasizes that rejection should not determine a person's self-worth. A declined match is not a measure of someone's value.

About Andy da Costa

Andy da Costa created Intimid AI Matchmaking as an alternative to endless swiping and traditional matchmaking services. The service combines AI-powered conversations with human matchmaking principles to help identify potential compatibility.

Frequently asked questions

What is AI matchmaking?

AI matchmaking uses conversations and compatibility profiles to help identify potential matches. Intimid considers personality, values, communication styles, and relationship goals, combining AI-powered conversations with human matchmaking principles.

Is AI matchmaking better than dating apps?

It is an alternative, not a guaranteed improvement for everyone. Intimid is designed to move beyond endless swiping and superficial profiles by considering values and relationship goals, while dating platforms differ in how they operate.

Can AI predict if a relationship will work?

No. AI matchmaking can identify potential compatibility, but it cannot guarantee a lasting relationship or determine genuine chemistry. The people involved have to meet and decide whether they connect.

Why do values matter when looking for a partner?

Values can help show whether two people share expectations and want similar things from a relationship. Intimid uses conversations to consider values alongside communication styles, personality, and relationship goals.

What personal information matters in AI matchmaking?

Information about personality, values, communication style, and relationship goals can help build a compatibility profile. Privacy, consent, identity verification, and safety are also important considerations when using a matchmaking service.

Listen to Andy da Costa's full conversation on The Elisha Show to hear more about AI matchmaking, authenticity, and finding potential compatibility.